Late one summer night, in the wee hours of the morning,
we were jolted awake by the sound no one wants to hear. Our house alarm started going off. It’s one of those sounds you think you are
prepared for but in that moment, your heart literally stops. Bo and I ran to the alarm panel and were so
full of adrenaline we could not think straight.
We unarmed the alarm before the alarm company called, which was not the
best idea we’ve had. Once we got our
bearings about us we figured out it was set off by the window in the garage. Bo
decided to go into the garage and check it out while I ran to check on the
children. I found our son hollering, “HELP, HELP, HELP” and my daughter was in bed,
eyes wide open, as still as she could be. About that time Bo came back and told
us the window was locked and nobody was in the house. We hatched a plan for Bo to go outside and
see if anyone was there. Yes… I know…
We had no guns so we chose the most logical weapon for him to take. A candlestick. Yes… I know… He went out the
back door in an attempt to surprise the burglars so he could perhaps… throw it
at them??? Our home became the set of a
Clue game in less than 3 minutes.
Professor Plum with his candlestick…
We laughed until our guts hurt when we realized how ridiculous our plan
was. Then we laughed again at our son alerting
the “burglars” to his exact whereabouts with his nonstop, “HELP, HELP, HELP”
and my daughter laying there as if to say, “I’m not saying a word. Maybe they
will grab my brother and run.” In the end, there was a malfunction in the sensor on the window, not a burglar. I have to
say, though, my hubby was super sexy when he showed such bravery and courage
trying to defend his family. My man… Be
still my heart.
There are so many different ideas we have of what
bravery and courage looks like. Whether
it be our loved ones fighting cancer, fighting for our country, firemen
fighting fires, single parents raising their children, etc. The lists go on and on. Courage is defined as the ability to do
something that frightens one. In saying
that I want to talk about what God has laid on my heart which is the courage to
overcome approval addiction. Yikes.
Hi, my name is Christi, and I am an Approval
Addict. I am in recovery but I am one,
nonetheless. It occurred to me that I
had this problem when I shared something deeply personal and no one else around me
shared anything about themselves. I felt
naked and vulnerable and knew right then why I had walked around for years
pretending like my life was perfect. I didn't want to be judged. I
finally found the courage to share that I was hurting and I was met with
what I perceived as gawking. I know, now, they were just as scared as I was.
Since then, it is my purpose to live my life with authenticity.
Have you ever sat with a friend when they shared some
hurt or past mistake and you immediately said, “OH MY GOSH, ME, TOO!” Close
your eyes and go back to that moment.
What did you feel? I would bet it was
relief. Relief that you were not alone
in carrying that shame, burden, or hurt anymore. Someone else understood what you were dealing
with or going through. As Christians we have a call on our lives to be the light in a dark
world. Your story, your mess, your test,
your past, your present, and your imperfect lives are YOUR testimonies and YOUR
messages. We were not created to do this life alone and I assure you, your
home, is not the only home that is messy.
ALL OUR HOMES have some sort of mess in them.
We simply cannot grow in our walk or heal from our past
as long as we live an inauthentic life. I
don’t encourage you to share your testimonies with just anyone but I do
encourage you to step out in faith and offer a story here and there to bridge
the gap with someone who may be hurting.
Just do it and see how God will bless your friendship and start healing
you. Watch how He WILL lavish His perfect love on you and bless you
immensely. When we stop looking to others for approval of our lives something happens inside us. We start to find freedom. Those handcuffs come off and we begin to breathe freely for the first time in our lives. I also beg you to
encourage anyone who shares something about themselves. It takes great courage and bravery to step
out of that fear and blindly on faith. I
can say that because I am attempting to do that very thing right now. I can see victory in my sight and I am not going
to let it go.
In closing I will share something that happened while I
was sitting in a pedicure chair. A sweet
woman that I did not know struck up a conversation with me as she was getting
her toes done. We started
talking about my children and she shared with me that she had lost her son in a
construction accident a few years prior.
She started crying and shared that she recently started
weaning off some medication and apologized for her emotions. I took that opportunity to share with her
that I knew exactly what coming off of medications felt like because
I have Bipolar Disorder II. I had weaned off several of the same kinds three years ago. She didn’t
have to say a word, I saw it in her face.
“OH MY GOSH, ME TOO.” It turned
out that she, too, had Bipolar Disorder.
I was able to share with her that I had found victory in my illness and
as of right now, I am no longer on any medications. Praise God. When she got up to leave, she leaned down and
kissed me on my cheek and said, “God brought me an angel today right when I
needed you the most. God bless you.” We never exchanged names that day but we
needed each other and God used us for His purpose.
Fear is not God breathed… I took the first step and shared something with you. Something I have felt ashamed of for a long while. I am no longer allowing the enemy to hold me in bondage over it so I am choosing to use it for God's glory. If I can do this, so can you. My heart's desire is to see women walk free and live authentic lives, to break free from the enemy's bondage of approval addiction. I ache for it and so does Jesus. Be brave! I am trying!
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for
the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
